The Army certainly does not make trying to start a family easy! My husband was only home for 5 short days before being sent off again. He had previously been away for 6 weeks and we were hoping to get some time together, however duty called. Thankfully he’ll only be gone for a few weeks so thats a win in my book.
A close friend of mine began trying to conceive about a year ago. And she did the most. She took her temperature daily, used multiple apps, wore a fertility monitor, blood work test, tracked ovulation, scheduled sex, and more. She became consumed with tracking and the fear of not being able to get pregnant. She shared with me on how all those things contributed to so much stress, conflict and difficulty.
Her experience prompted us to discuss what we would like our process to look like. I know tracking is necessary for many couples to conceive. They are wonderful and extremely helpful tools. For some, knowing the exact day adds excitement! However, they may not be the right fit for every couple. I tend to be all or nothing with things. So I know, although it is a useful tool, if I begin tracking, especially this early, I would suck all the fun, surprise and excitement out of the experience. So, we decided that we would not track anything for at least the first 6 months. We will reevaluate in 6 months but our hope is to make and keep this one of the most fun, joy filled and memorable experiences.
He was home for less than a week and I am not going to lie, I was definitely temped to test and see if I was ovulating but I held off and we ended up having a fantastic, carefree time. I love the idea of getting to surprise him with a positive test when he gets back however, for the most part I am keeping the excitement at bay and reminding myself to just take it day by day.